New day, new place

As you can see there has been a lot of changes happening, both in my life and this blog...I will try to update the pictures of Carly, Sox and Bailey and add Adriana. I am now in Finland so the blog name had to change. The background disappeared so I had to change that too.

I've now been to Finland for 3 days and miss Tiffany like crazy. We haven't really had a chance to talk to each other all that much because I have been suffering from jetlag and we now have 7h time difference. I and we had mastered that before I moved to USA so I'm sure we will again but for right now trying to figure out her schedule during the day/night is difficult. And since she's working it's not like I will just pick up the phone and call her and we can chat for as long as we want to...she actually has to work! Sucks when that happens. And we keep missing each other on all the instant messaging systems so it sucks even more. We're trying to catch each other...

Being back home has definitely been a little culture shock. There are no people here. Brooklyn was never quiet, there was always people around and the streets were buzzing...not to mention the highway under our window. There is a random car on the street every once in awhile but that's it. I went to pick up Arttu from the train station today at 7pm and there were no people to be seen. Few cars here and there but overall very quiet and peaceful. Not at all what I'm used to on a Friday night. Speaking of my little brother...he came home from the army today and was wearing his army clothes...I had to take a picture. Last time I saw him he was little scrawnier and had a long black/dark hair. Now he has short hair and he's gained some muscle.




Tomorrow we are having some quality brother/sister time. He's taking me to the movies to see Inception and afterwards for drinks. He also gave me his wireless internet connection stick so that I don't have to rely on Ybi's computer but I can use my own...This means I can skype Tiffany in the middle of (my) night when I can't sleep without having to get up and go to the other room.

I also wanted to post a picture of Arttu from when he was a baby when he was making faces after tasting sour candy but don't feel like scanning it right now (requires getting up, moving to another room and starting another computer) and the picture that I took of the picture doesn't look right. Next time.

I'm getting tired now so I am gonna go. I will be blogging soon though...Later.

If I get a doctor's note, can I stay here?

So I'm wondering if I get a Doctor's note saying I'm too sick to travel, can I stay here? Probably not but it's probably worth a shot... If this is how my body takes on saying good bye to Tiffany's family, I wonder if I'll be in the hospital for saying good bye to Tiffany!

This past weekend was my last one up by Tiffany's family. We drove up on Friday night and stayed at Johnny and JoeAnn's or as it will be known from now on, at Adriana's. They're not taking Adriana to see people just yet because she hasn't had her vaccinations so they were not able to come to the bbq on Saturday. We stayed up past midnight, had a few drinks and talked.

On Saturday we had breakfast at Adriana's, went to the pond to swim with Carly, enjoyed some sun, went back to see Adriana with Celeste who hadn't seen her before and then headed to Billy and Amanda's for the bbq. It was just us, Tiffany's mom, Billy, Amanda and Carly, Erin, her new bf Brad (who will start studying for his architecture degree and knew 2 Finnish architects), Jane and Celeste. We had good time, had some drinks, good food and when it was time to leave I was fine until Erin started crying and then I lost it.

On Sunday we had breakfast with Billy, Amanda, Carly and Tiffany's dad, went to see Adriana one more time and got home later than we wanted to. After few hours at home I started to feel like crap. Achy, cold, was coughing and just felt like I was getting the flu. I'm still achy and feel out-of-breath but other than that I'm fine.

I have a project I need to be working on as well as going through my stuff to figure out what to take to Finland, what to leave here and what to throw away...and pack as much stuff I can so that if I'm not coming back till next year and Tiffany needs to move before that, she doesn't need to pack my stuff. I also need to get some WII time in as well as quality time with the cats. They won;t be getting too much sleep during the day this week because I'm constantly waking them up. There's plenty of time to sleep next week!

Look for more health updates later this week/early next week to see how this move is affecting me. It's total bullshit that I need to go back home and leave Tiffany behind when there are thousands of straight couples who can get married and sponsor their spouses to stay but we need to be separated because of this stupid immigration law that is totally FUCKED UP!!!

Talk to you later or see you in Finland.

Paging my life...has anyone seen it?

So in 2 weeks I will board a plane to Finland. Just for a month or 2 or so, we hope. In case you haven't heard, I found a job. I cannot tell you the specifics because nothing is certain but if they can find funding for this project, I will have a job. I had an "interview" with my future boss few weeks ago and he told me all this. Since then he has had meeting with the people who would fund it but it's all still up in the air. So that means my job is also up in the air. And that means my and Tiffany's life together is also up in the air. It's all basically out of my hands at this point. I am forced to leave my life, my girlfriend and my cats behind because my visa expired and finding a job in this economy is like finding a needle in a haystack. Impossible. And that's the only way I can stay here. Find a job that's willing to shell out few thousand dollars for my work visa.

I would laugh if I had the energy. Were we a straight couple we could get married and Tiffany could just sponsor my visa. Were I a person who wouldn't mind staying here illegally and just working under the table I could do that. But I want a life together with my loved one, I want to settle down, have a house, have a job that I like (and pays well) and maybe start a family without the fear of someday immigration knocking on my door and deporting me. Is that too much to ask? Just your basic wants that everybody has... but no, I will need to leave my partner and leave.

So right now my life is being taken away from me. I'm gonna leave everything I've built here for the past 3 years to go back home. Tiffany, Sox and Bailey, Carly, Adriana, our new niece, rest of Tiffany's family and our friends... Even though I do think this job will eventually come through in the meantime I'll be in limbo at home. Not knowing when exactly I'll be back. And it sucks.