For the first time ever, a gay gala was held in Finland to celebrate last year's top queer happenings, people and allies in Finland. I'm not going to lie, in the back of my mind I was hoping to get a nomination for the things I'm doing in Forssa. Had I been nominated, I would have gone, no doubt. Since I wasn't, I didn't make any plans, until 2 weeks ago when I got a personal invitation for me +one to attend. I was shocked. I was ecstatic. And I was proud. A lot of the celebrity lgbt-people I know from Finland weren't, so this was an honor.
I spent the night with Seta folks and we had fun. I spoke with some of them about the gala, the nominees, the winners and overall experience. I spoke with Seta chairperson, J-P and watched him talk with a lot of different people during the night. He's well-spoken, knowledgable, very gracious, poltically correct and really good with people (and his good looks don't hurt). Truly a wonderful spokesperson for Seta and the LGBT community in Finland. I aspire to be more like him with my pc'ness.
Now don't get me wrong, I really like Krista Kosonen. I think she's funny and she's obviously gorgeous, but I wish they had had somebody from the community to host the gala. Overall, there was too much straightness being celebrated. Since there really isn't a queer TV or movie industry in Finland, I don't think those categories need to be present at this time, or they should only include tv shows and movies with an LGBT representation or which are made by LGBT people. I think Krista Siegfried was nominated in almost every category except gay of the year, or so it seemed. And she has done a lot for the gay visibility in Finland and in the world as a straight ally kissing girls on stage, but still, there are more deserving gay people out there doing things that aren't necessarily as visible, but make a difference nonetheless.
As a night celebrating the gay community, there was way too much otherness and words such as "weird" and "different" and "normal" being thrown around. Can't we all just be people, unique in our own way, without bringing the straight vs. gay, us vs. them into the conversation? The one night where we can just be us, be fabulous and celebrate it, had to turn political as well. We have pride parades for political statements, we have Seta advocating for our rights, we have Tahdon 2013 citizen's initiative for marriage equality, do we need to bring pope and religion and Päivi Räsänen and laws into the discussion? There was no need for comparisons, and no need for the straight folks to emphasize their straightness. We should have enough celesbians and gays and bi's and trans* people in Finland to occupy this event. Even the most aware and open straight allies cannot really grasp the concept of being lgbt and that was painfully obvious with some of them yesterday.
I think Krista K. over-empasized her straightness and saying that she tried being bi was in a way an insult to the bisexuals. They get a lot of hate and questions about their sexuality and hear how they are just confused and media does a lot of bi-erasure as well, so having someone basically confirm that you can choose your sexuality can do a lot of harm. Acceptance of bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation has a long way to go still and this was not helping the cause.
And then there were the few occasions where the drag queens gave speeches that was subpar. Cristal Snow singled out a drag queen who had told her back in the day that she'd never make it in the business and look at her now…No need to be mean, just thank everyone, celebrate your win and move on, or if you have to say something, do it privately.
It's ok to be you and I like you, but I'm not like you. That was the feeling I left with and that's why I don't think the evening was 100% a success.
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